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Potty training is a necessary evil. It can be especially intimidating to a new young parent. Potty training is not to be taken lightly, and a child that is not properly potty trained can face a lot of problems later on in childhood.

Like anything else, with potty training there’s room for error. It’s no secret that people aren’t perfect and sometimes make mistakes. Here are some common mistakes that a lot of parents make when potty training, and how to avoid them:

  • ​Forcing your child to go: You’re not going to want to try and force your child to go to the bathroom. If your child is refusing to sit on the toilet or potty, they might not be ready for potty training. If they sit but generally won’t stay for too long, they probably aren’t ready.
  • ​Training too early: Attempting to potty train your child too early can be detrimental and slow down the process in the long run. Most people experts and parents alike agree that there is no real proper age to start potty training, but trying to train your child before they’re ready just isn’t going to work.

​​You’re going to be able to tell whether or not your kid is ready to start potty training. Once they start showing interest and are more naturally drawn to the bathroom, that’s when you capitalize.

  • ​Negative reinforcement: If your child has an accident, scolding them isn’t going to make the mess go away. It’s important to remember that stress has a hugely adverse effect when it comes to potty training.

​Scolding your child when they make a mistake can lead to some severe self-worth issues down the line. They might feel genuinely sorry for what they did when in reality they had little control over the understanding of the situation.

  • ​Rushing your child: Don’t worry about keeping up with all the other kids. Every child learns at a different pace. Too much pressure in your head to either get the potty training started or finished will show and make your child uncomfortable.

​Your stress can affect your child and even stress them out, and that’s what we don’t want. Just remain calm, remember that sometimes it takes kids a little bit longer to get the hang of things but that your kid is going to be fine.

  • ​Shaming your child: Shaming your child or making them feel gross about an accident or going to the bathroom, in general, isn’t going to help anybody. It’s vital that your child knows that going to the bathroom is normal, and like the title of the famous book reads, “everybody poops.”

​Shaming your child about an accident work get you anywhere. It’ll just make you feel bad (hopefully) for shaming your kid, and it’ll make your kid feel bad for something that may have been out of their hands.

  • ​Don’t argue or beg: Young as they are, kids can sense weakness. If you’re chasing your child around pleading and begging trying to get them to use the bathroom, they probably aren’t going to be having any of it.

​Kids are stubborn, and often are going to want to do the opposite of what their parents want them to do specifically because that’s what their parents don’t want them to do.

Going to the bathroom has to be beneficial for them in some way. They’ve been using diapers their whole lives, and they’re used to them. Don’t completely give in to your kids, just incentive them in some way, or maybe try and trick them into thinking that peeing in a toilet is fun.

Things To Remember

Potty training takes time. Your child might pick things up and get the hang of things right away, but it’s still going to take some time to get everything in order. Remember that your attitude has a great effect on how your child will view the potty training.

By having a positive attitude yourself as a role model for your child, you can help them to better cope with the possible stress of potty training. Staying positive for your child’s benefit is something that will help.

It’s a good idea to incentivize the potty training in some way for the child. Maybe have a game or toy that the child enjoys, and only let them use it when they’re on the potty. Call the toy their special potty toy and give it to them when they use it. This will make the experience more enjoyable for them, and make them want to be there.

potty training should be incentivized

For boys learning how to pee while standing, it might be fun for them if you placed some target for them in the toilet bowl or potty. For my sons, I would throw in little goldfish crackers, and every time they hit one of them, I would give them a point and keep score.

The main thing to remember is not to pressure your child. As stubborn as they may be, they will learn eventually. What you’re pressuring is only going to do the opposite of what you want it to. The people that thrive under pressure are few and far between, and children are no different.


Like anything else, when potty training, you might make some mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes though, and that’s not to say you’ve messed things up beyond repair. No matter what the situation, there’s always room to pull back and turn things around.

Even the most difficult cases will eventually come to a close, and if you remain patient and caring and kind, you’ll make the experience more enjoyable for not only your child but yourself. Nobody said parenting was going to be easier, but taking the time to learn about what you can do to be your best for your child is certainly a step in the right direction.

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